Well, the way I see it, the difference is I chose this.
Sure, my daughter gave me an ultimatum but her plan would not have worked out the way she thought/hoped it might. It would have just been a pain in the rear and maybe somewhat embarrassing. This is no way detracts from my gratitude for her delivery of said ultimatum. She and my middle girl really did kick my rear into taking serious action.
In Dad's case, he was forced into treatment by his workplace. As far as I know, he did not reach the desperate desire to stop that I have been through over the past several years.
So that's what I'm going with.