I think that's a good plan. Doing something like that here would be considered "custodial interference" and is a criminal offense, especially if it was premeditated.
I only had to deal with mine for a year, and I thought that was exhausting. You are an incredible, strong woman to fight this fight for your children for so long. You have not failed at anything, nor are you to blame for this debacle. That's all on him. I don't think any human woman could "succeed" at marriage with a man like this.
Sending strength your way.
