I think that a person who did not have a bit of a problem themselves would or should (how important is it social drinker?) drink in front of their partner if said partner had made a decision to not drink. This does not necessarily mean indefinitely, but at least support the person in the early days . It's not very caring and supportive of such an important decision in a person's life. Drunks are boring and annoying too. I should know.
