Amp, well said! You described something I haven't been able to describe adequately - the power of choice. I don't do well when I feel forced to do something (or even feel pushed to do something I don't want to) and that tends to provoke the rebel in me. After being sober for awhile I went from feeling I "should" and "ought" to be sober to I "want" to be sober. Huge change in perspective and motivation.
Glee, as I read your post something popped for me. I used to be an awful gossip and didn't like that about myself. I'm gradually becoming more respectful of others as I become more respectful of myself.
Have a lovely day, Undies.