you say his sudden move to the Fashion Police has happened before but recently....are there other areas of YOUR life that he tries to control and "acts like a jerk" about? sure the newly sober can be cranky, but he is still WAY out of line.
as for how to deal with i....man, i just don't deal with jerks or jerk behavior well (unless of course it's my OWN...lol) so i don't always have the softer/kinder approach. what i do know is try not to continue to let this build up in you all day so by the time you get home you have become a human Cat5 hurricane.
i see you just replied. i want to state clearly that ALCOHOLISM AND ABUSE are two SEPARATE issues....just not drinking does not cause an abuser to CHANGE. abuse is a mindset, of way of seeing the world and those in it, with entitlement and arrogance and complete lack of respect. sending him to rehab won't FIX that.