Help with detachment
My AH is trying to get sober again (supposedly) and is on day 6 I think. I'm somewhat skeptical obviously but trying to support him. My problem is the jerky behavior is still an issue - another shut-down just happened this morning over what I am wearing to work today (btw, this has happened before recently and both times about the same type of clothing that's been a staple of my wardrobe for a decade and is totally work-appropriate). I simply told him to stop being a jerk and left. I'm obviously not going to change my appearance for him at this point, or any really, but I know when I get home he will still be acting like an #@%.
This is always a problem with me - the whole "detachment not amputation" thing. How do I detach from him without being a jerk myself? It's not really practical to not be around him all evening with dinner, homework, etc. with the kids.
Thanks for reading!