I'm so sorry you're in this painful place. Alcoholism is a progressive disease and there is nothing anyone can do or say that will keep an alcoholic from drinking. He has to want -- need -- to stop drinking and then seek help (a rehab, AA). In the meantime I suggest reading the posts on this forum. Alanon saved my sanity and helped determine the right path for me ( leaving and working on my own problems). A big hug.