Originally Posted by
Refiner 
I really don't understand how ppl are saying Ny made a mistake and should apologize- she did nothing wrong IMO. He asked for her truth and accepted it AT THE TIME. Then threw it in her face THE NEXT DAY using it as the reason he's "leaving her" (I can almost guarantee he won't do this after he's done with his relapse or binge he's most certainly on). She wanted him to hit his rock bottom (as others have in the form of arrest, getting hurt, etc) so he would WANT to get help. If anyone needs to apologize it should HIM apologizing to Ny.
Thank you! I was really questioning myself tonight. It was in fact a week later that he used it as the reason to leave. Which says to me that he was storing it up to use when he needed an excuse to drink....and at Christmas while everyone around him is drinking, he pulled it out. Sneaky.
I did get an apology that night while we were talking (before I said I wanted him to hurt himself), how I wish I had just stopped at the apology and revelled in it!!!