Hi SorroW
I'm really sorry for what brings you here - that sounds like an incredibly difficult situation to be in for both you and your kids.
I'm not sure what you mean thought by 'HOW or what is the wife side of this situation handled once he is away in rehab???????'
do you mean where can you find support?
This is a great place for support and understand right here. We also have dedicated family and friends forums here:
The Alcoholism and Addictions Help Forums- by SoberRecovery.com
There are real life organisations that can help with support too, like AlAnon or NarAnon.
You are definitely not alone here
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