Firstly, good luck in the pursuit of life without alcoholism, young lady. Things may seem insurmountable, right now. But doors will no doubt open as you step in front of them. I'm here, tonight, just like you- looking for courage and a way out of the constant drama that comes with being married to an alcoholic. I'm the man in the family. But, my problems are probably very similar to yours with the exception of having dependents...I have none.
Thank you, Cyranoak, for your comments. It's true that the word "functioning" isn't accurate at all. It's like calling the normal and sometimes drastic changes in earth's climate, "climate change."
There is no "functionality" to alcoholism. I should have left, long ago. And, you can...WE can do it: leave, that is.