I have discovered something new today. I thought the alcohol was my biggest concern and the infidelity was a by-product but, I'm actually finding now that I feel just as strongly about this issue - have just buried it. I find it totally unacceptable and have never behaved that way but I forgave him because he was drunk - how ridiculous !
You aren't alone in this mind set. A's will say they didn't know what they were doing, or they did it because they were drunk. Spouse's and SO's buy into that as well. NOPE. Its two completely separate issues one having nothing to do with the other.