I've been looking at this post for awhile and not sure I should respond. But 10 years ago I was your husband and you were my wife of 22 years. The situation sounds exactly the same. I'm re-Married now, my wife wanted a divorce, and in hind sight it was the best thing for both of us. I hope your situation is different and I wish you and your husband the best. Sorry to be so glum but this felt like daja vu.