Wow, I can so relate to all of you who don't like asking for help. My husband's cousin's wife once said to me, "You need to learn to receive, not just give." When you deny other's help, you really are rejecting their kindness. And if we get pleasure from giving, we have to assume others do, as well.
Today, I walked into a client's office, only to get screamed at for what I felt was unfounded reasons. I kept my cool, but I also was assertive on where I stood on the situation. It all ended up being fine and amazingly, this situation didn't eat me up all day, like I would typically let it. I was proud of myself for standing up for myself. Lately, I have been able to observe things in a really detached manner and it feels good! Ironically, by being detached, I feel more "in control" than I ever have in my prior to recovery "control freak"years!