^^ oh Good Lord almighty-that was me,...holy moly. I totally still have my moments but the difference is now I SEE-I'm able to see it before I go down the rabbit hole and adjust accordingly, reframe thoughts and go on with my life. Funny thing-my ex was absolutely correct about those aspects of me-spot on. I think we knew each other better than we knew ourselves-or were willing to admit the other person was right. Funny how marriage acts as a mirror to your best and worst qualities-how god designs it! (He would call me on my ******** and I appreciated it-took me a while to seek help for my issues but he did have some genuine constructive criticism that I absolutely changed-for the better). These things would be at the top of the list.
I definitely personalized everything-I was a walking poster child for codependency!! One day at a time-progress over perfection-and all of that
