Thanks Lexie. And yes, if we do have to go to trial, we WILL be ok. We have made it this far, and we will make it through that as well. Part of almost wishes he would take it to trial and get the 20.
And I agree, the alcohol really isn't the problem. It is the abuse and sense of entitlement. I could almost deal with just the drinking. He used it to not feel the guilt of what he was doing (though really I think that isn't 100% true either). I think he just thought he was bullet proof and chose to keep doing things that were self destructive because he thought he was above the consequences. I know he was depressed and self medicating, however the abuse has been something that he has been working toward his whole life (treating people poorly, manipulating women, etc). He just needs to be gone from my life and the lives of my children.