Lexie, thanks for clearing some of that up. I do have a civil order that is no contact as well, which is in place for me. I tried for no contact with my daughter with the civil but the judge denied that piece. I can go back to court and ask to have it changed, which I may end up doing before he gets off of probation (if he takes the deal). I am hoping he does the right thing by his daughter and takes the deal to spare her from testifying. Hopefully I will know something in a relatively short amount of time.
They asked me about alcohol treatment and I told them that he has already been through the Batter's Intervention Program, mandatory AA meetings, counseling, and the monthly urine tests with his last probation. I explained that I thought it needed to be something different as he figured out how to work the system last time.
3 years does seem like a long time, but I think they are just trying to get a conviction at this point and have all this be over for me and the kids.