If you came between him and his ability to drink in comfort......then, you will be viewed as an enemy.....
In reality, this is not about you as compared to her.....it is not about either of you...It is about him and the alcohol which rules his life and all of his actions, decisions and attitudes.
He is an alcoholic...alcohol is in charge.....that is the way it works. It just is.
You will need to heal.....it will be uncomfortable for a while...but, it is short-term pain for the long-term gain (in the big picture of your life).
There is a saying......"Let go or be dragged"......
Ask yourself if that is what you want for yourself and those innocent little children.......they don't even get a vote.....
dandylion