hello, this past Aug , my husband started the road to recovery. He was doing great, and recently started "sneaking" drinks again. When I spoke to him about it, he said that if there isn't a place for alcohol , we are doomed. while it breaks my heart, I feel I don't accept that it is the third member in our marriage, that I have to deal with it. I understand one day at a time, but the lying. the lying just feels so personal and I don't know how to react. I said I would leave, and then he could be free, and not a word out of him, I feel used betrayed and rejected, I have tried so hard to help him, I am mentally and physically, exhausted. Doe anyone have words I can remember to stay calm and not lash back? thank you you for your help.
