@LexieCat: He lives in a small town in Indiana (probably the least gay-friendly state I can think of). Luckily, my brother can "pass" which means that you would not know he was gay, unless he told you. Additionally, the AA meetings in his town are mostly full of people with heroine addiction who are court ordered to be there and are not committed to sobriety. I do not want to make excuses for him, because the truth of the matter is my brother found a year of sobriety while working the program daily in this small town. So, it can be done... I am going to talk to my mom about Al-Anon mtgs tonight. Do you all know if there is an online community to attend virtual meetings? I believe my mom and I could both use the help and fellowship, but also know my mom works so much that she will likely not be able to attend the one Al-Anon mtg in town.