(((Amy)))
I'm sorry this is happening - that you're hurting and he's hurting. This, too, is a phase. It's not forever and always.
The "gift of desperation" is where hitting meetings and grabbing a sponsor started transforming my life and my relationships. I didn't see it immediately, but today, this week, I am not the same as I was a relatively short time ago. It's now a wonderful blessing.
I've had the gift of desperation several times in different areas of my life. It's a terrible feeling and I hate going through it! I can say that I still don't know of any other way to the other side of healing except to go through. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
It's good to hear you're finding some in-person support also. If you have a phone list or any Alanon contact numbers, it's OK to call and reach out to others.
So good to be posting here as often as needed!
