When I decided to get sober I couldn't take a hostage with me........I had to deal with me, no one else. Some find inspiration from loved ones getting sober - some do not and continue to drink. I couldn't start my sobriety by having my partner resent me - this was my problem. That said, without prompting my wife (really not a drinker) simply chose to not have any alcohol around for herself.
Glad you're here - thanks for the thread.