I am in the position of preparing to break up with my bf and father of my son. I love him dearly hut his problem is too big for me to handle and try to raise a happy family together. I have to think about my son. Coming to this decision has been very difficult for me but I know it is the right thing to do. You are right it is important to love yourself. I caught myself caring more about him and his problems than my own. It will be hard to watch your ex go through his trials but he needs to do that and overcome them in his own way otherwise you can never be certain that he won't go back to his old ways. The waiting can some times be the hardest part but stand tall knowing that you did what you had to and I wish you luck. Keep your chin up