Just speaking for myself because I really don't know about Stung's situation, but compassion was important for me personally. I had to learn to detach with love and compassion instead of in anger, because anger kept me stuck. When I distanced myself from an addict in an angry way, I later felt guilty, and then I would swing toward remorse and reach out to the addict to make it up to them. So it was a revelation to me when I read Codependent No More and realized that I could distance myself in a loving way. When I was able to tell my AXBF in a loving and compassionate way that I needed to end a conversation, when I realized that I didn't have to argue with him in order to set boundaries, I was able to distance myself without guilt, and that was the only way I was able to distance myself and make it stick. Again, not commenting on Stung's situation, just commenting on the value of compassion for me, as a codependent.