Originally Posted by
IamMeursault2me 
jd1639, she has not brought up the "D" word but she will absolutely not comment on it. she's "confused" and I get that. I brought this all on by my actions and now I have to deal with the consequences. I keep asking myself, do I need serenity to accept this or courage to change it? I don't have the wisdom right now, I'm also confused.
thanks PurpleKnight. I feel very good about 5 months but I'll feel better at 5 years.
glad yer here and asking questions. something to think about
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if you were married to you for that many years would ya be able to justforgive ya because youve been sober 5 months?
the confustion will disappear as ya learn about yourself, how to live, and how to love.
dont get me wrong. 5 months is a major accomplishment. its a bigger accomplishment than 10,15,20 years.
but its going to take T.I.M.E.
your wife has been with you all these years. i mean absolutely no disrespect here, but its pretty common for people that have been in a long term relationship with an alcoholic to be just as sick as the alcoholic.
if you both work on yourselves and your relationship it can get better.
but its going to take T.I.M.E.
prayers out for ya!
p.s.
throw out the arse kikin machine