I agree with you, stung. I think you are not being judgmental or lacking compassion. Sobriety or whatever is his thing. His struggle. I don't feel sorry for my ex-his choice was to continue drinking and surround himself with people that "loved" him and would listen to his victim stories and enable-and not call him out. He pushed away the people trying to help him. Naturally. I have no compassion left for my ex bc of the way he's treated me since the divorce and the way he's treated his own kids. I have no sympothy for him either. He can grow up or not. Again, his choice.
Back to your post, I would have a very hard time keeping this person as my sponsor-it does seek she maybe has her own agenda....I'll just say it, I don't agree with whst she told you. Feelings validated!! Peace to you. And I hope your AH gets back on the wagon.