Sounds like it's time for a new sponsor.
Sometimes I feel that compassion is the last thing an alcoholic needs, whether they are in recovery or not. It seems almost enabling to comfort them when they CHOOSE to relapse.
That's just my opinion, though.
I feel that was a really irresponsible thing for your sponsor to tell you. Of course he chooses whether or not to drink. What he doesn't choose is control when he chooses to start drinking again. Honestly, if it's not a person's choice whether or not to drink or take part in whatever addiction they choose, then what is the point of recovery at all?
I think your reaction is healthy and realistic. I think it's unhealthy for your sponsor to tell you it isn't and recommend things that she's not even tried yet.