Originally Posted by
IamMeursault2me 
I'm afraid of what she'll say if I ask this question.
I was too. It absolutely broke my heart when she said she wanted a divorce. But with the advantage of time it was best for both of us. To be fair, she had brought up the d word about a year earlier. Don't know if your wife has. I'm also one to do my best, but expect the worst. Hopefully your situation will be different.