What a great post about
reasonable expectations!!
I have identified with almost every list item posted at one point or another in my recovery but this one rings the loudest:
Sorry for the late replies I went out tonight to see friends and could stay out late and not be so anxious wondering whats going to happen when I get home. My stomach would be in knots driving home and I could never spend any time with my friends because I was too nervous wondering what he was doing.
Oh MAN do I remember those feelings - both the tightly-wound, anxious ball of No-Fun that was out & about but never really
present in the moment because I was always more concerned with his whereabouts or emotionally focused on his recent drama.... and the relieved person, FREE of those mental trappings that wasn't just living but
loving life & really engaging in it. I like that person a lot better!