it probably took me 8 months into sobriety to realize i didnt have it so bad and to have that thought start to sink in. I did not make ammends with my wife till 3 years in. mainly becuase it was just so painful for me but I realized what I had done about a year in.
I think it took me so long because i spent so much time just trying to hold myself together all those months. I had a lot of S$$$ to work out in my head i was a mess mentally.
He probably did intend to be sober. but recovery is a process a journey its not some destination you get too per say not anytime fast anyhow.