TomSteve--Just out of curiosity, how long into sobriety did it take to recognize that your alcoholic thinking was insane and delusional? I think I was kind of expecting him to have that revelation by the time he got back from rehab and he didn't. Not only did he not seem to recognize that, but he was still missing that remorse that I thought would come with sobriety. He has put me and our family through hell and still did not seem to take responsibility for that after rehab. Is that likely because it takes a long time into sobriety for those things to come? Or because maybe he didn't intend to be sober in the first place so he wasn't really in recovery?