CharlieW
It's a difficult one. While we're being sober and trying hard to stay that way our spouse/partner/parent/kid often have no conception of what we are attempting to achieve.
I feel that, maybe selfishly and possibly childishly, my efforts should be recognised more. The fact that I've gone almost a month sober is something I feel should be lauded. From my wife's perspective it is the equivalent of her not eating a carrot or something for 4 weeks. We expect different things and both of us are possibly right and wrong.
I also got a hit to the gut yesterday by an offhand remark my wife made. We've often put people through a lot and their memories are long and their trust running on fumes. Only to be expected I suppose.
No solutions just empathy.