just be yourself you dont have to be anything anyone else thinks you should be. you wanna not be social at a gathering that makes you feel good so be it. You did your part you showed up you went you got out of your comfort zone etc.. you went to these events and still refused to drink wich is a victory in itself. if these are things she has issues with and cant see past oh well.
But if you think going to these events and drinknig and so on is going to make your life better by all means knock yourself out. But I think you realize that it wont.
You are as you are it just is the way that it is. If she cant accept it? ::shrug:: oh well.
easier said then done i guess.