Juno, in the past I too have cancelled all my plans in hopes of protecting my sobriety. If you don't mind me suggesting. ...something that has helped me SO MUCH is to have a few "safe friends. " These are friends who know I'm staying sober and support me in this. I feel free to tell them what will help me....I tell them "i may need to break plans if having a rough time"...I find that the friends who are in total support of my sobriety are STILL great to be with even when I'm struggling.