Originally Posted by
jjj111 
she also shared some things before she became distant about a miscarriage she suffered that was very painful--so maybe this all struck a nerve somehow.
I think this is the heart of it right here, jjj - I think you are right that the miscarriage triggered her & everything else is just her poor reaction to it.
I don't want to assume reasons or her feelings around it all but I know how emotional fertility & family vs. career tug of wars can be for women so I think *I* would chalk it up to: "This is about HER, not ME. There's nothing for me TO fix about it." Like bimini suggested, handling the mentorship best from your end through the chain of "command" (which sounds complicated) is the right way to focus on it.
Congratulations!!!!!!