Ok, I meant option #2... sheesh! lol
Yes, I have requested several times to meet her (and her husband too!), as they live nearby. But since their friendship is only during work hours, apparently that isn't feasible somehow. He hasn't met her husband and they don't like to be sociable, from what I've been told. That's the hardest part. He said their friendship isn't like that. I dunno. I've tried countless times to explain my unease, but he said it's completely innocent and I have nothing to worry about so it's implied that it's pretty much my problem.
Early sobriety is very fragile, and does make me super sensitive to giving in to my AV. But without vodka in the house, I'm safe. I'll make it through. Everyone in SR is so helpful and I am deeply grateful to be able to have this forum as a means of getting through these times. :-)