Hi Natalia
First of all, I'm sorry that you are going through a double dose of this. It must be very hard. I have found that there isn't much you can do for an alcoholic who isn't willing to seek help. I know that must be very difficult to digest when it comes to your son who is drinking. Your other son might benefit from Alateen meetings. They were very helpful to me when I was in high school and dealing with my alcoholic mother. Maybe you could find a place where they have and Alanon and Alateen meeting on the same night and go together. This is a very frustrating and painful disease to deal with. But one step at a time, we can all find a way to a saner life. Big hugs to you and your family. Keep coming back.
Peace,
Gabe