LG-
I think that almost is tricky, and at time can be a masquerade for "accepting" unacceptable behavior....which many of us that love problem drinkers are familiar with and then I know I at least spent a lot of time justifying it all to myself.
I think having expectations of what you want in a relationship is fine, but it is not always reasonable to have those expectations of an individual in early recovery.
He is showing you what he has to offer, is it enough? That is for you to decide, and really about you LG. For me that was some of the most challenging learning I needed to have around recovery.