Life is hard with or without alcohol. LIving sober helps me deal with this reality a hell of a lot better than when I drink. It's not that life gets perfect when we stop drinking, it's that I can finally deal with - confront- heal the crap that I swam in for so long. Hang in there. Things won't get better overnight, but they will improve. A suggestion might be to try a different meeting if you can- if you aren't hearing solutions- because they are out there.