321hope , I learned a lot in my 2 years sober . I went through even more in the 10 + years drinking . The one thing I know for a fact is you can not make any one quit unless they want it . No amount of begging , crying , standing on your head will change there mind . It's better to work on yourself first , so it won't eat you up inside . Then you'll be stronger to help them when they want it .