Hi there and welcome. You'll hear over and over that recovery is an inside job that I must do for myself. That is so true. But it's really hard with a partner that drinks heavily, or even regularly, no doubt. My late husband drank a lot, maybe was an alcoholic (not like me however), and had he not died (that sounds awful) I would have died drinking or had to have left him. It was a very toxic entanglement. So much enabling and codependence. He would have loved me to death...and I would have let him.