I wouldn't say he's encouraging me to drink- he's just not helping me. I frequently continue to drink after he's gone to bed and hide my beer cans so he doesn't know how much I drank. I think since my drinking is not directly affecting him, he doesn't view it at a problem.
Last year I received a diabetes diagnosis. At first my husband was very supportive in also eating the way I had to eat. That got old and now he purchases treats for himself and will purchase something for me that I can eat like cheese or nuts. Naturally, his treats appeal to me more than mine. LOL. I feel bad if he had to restrict himself on the things he likes just because I can't have them. That diabetes diagnosis (I think) is another of the many reasons I started to drink again, initially moderating. I felt sorry for myself because I couldn't eat or drink the things I loved.
I think I'm slowly realizing why I started again and can recognize some of my triggers. I just hope I'm smarter this time.