Originally Posted by
Rar 
I have spoken to him several times about my inability to stop drinking once I start. When I stopped last year, believe me it was VERY TOUGH, to live with his drinking. Eventually it got too much for me and I started to try to moderate. I spoke with him at the beginning of September when I wanted to stop again. On Monday I told him that I REALLY have a drinking problem and need to stop. He doesn't feel I have a problem because I was able to moderate for a few months. It's terribly tough right now.
That's tough to deal with I'm sure. But it's not surprising unfortunately, I know several people ( including some family ) that just don't understand it either. I think what's most unfortunate is that he doesn't respect your decision - there's a difference between not understanding and actively encouraging you to drink despite your definition of the problem.
Fortunately you've got us here to help, have you considered any local support?