I have never heard anything like that said in any AA meeting.
Personally, if I couldn't fly without drinking, then I wouldn't fly.
People have overcome this before, so it can be done, if you want it enough.
There are some great AA speaker recordings with the topic of overcoming fear.
This one (Charlie C) is great, and has helped me to adjust my perspective in lots of situations where fear was controlling me.
Charlie C. Los Angeles CA. Step 4 Fear & Sex, Stateline Retreat , Primm ,Nevada 2006 - RecoveryAudio.org
Earl H (Hightower) is also very good (and he has overcome issues over flying as well).
Good luck.