Originally Posted by
honeypig 
I was coming back to do this same thing,
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Ny, the Success is in knowing your boundaries, honoring yourself, defining the life you want & going after it. Including your alcoholic partner means they have to be on board with all of that & work as hard for it, if not harder in some ways. But you can't *make* them want it. You can't control what that other person will or won't do & that's why it very, very often comes down to separation/divorce in order to having a shot at that happy life you've been visualizing when you are dealing with active addiction or a sober-but-not-recovering alcoholic. My success is that I got brave & took control of my life. (very different than the
illusion of control I'd been living with.)
ShootingStar1's story is arguably one of the most enthralling, eloquent & inspiring stories you can possibly read here on SR.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...rd-health.html http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-choosing.html