Agree. My dad was abusive, beat me mercilessly and then would cry and apologize saying how much he loved me. Yikes if that was love. My mom would say to him, "Not where is shows!" while beating me. Who is the real person? The real person is who is doing the abuse.
Reminds me of the movie "Primal Fear" This guy Aaron is a killer fakes pleading not guilty by reason of insanity split personality. His alter one is aggressive, named Roy, who did the killing. In the end he tauntingly says to his lawyer after being acquitted, "There never was a Roy."
There was no nice guy to my Dad. He was an abuser and a drunk.