This one really strikes a ccord for me in regards to my sober, but highly Codie mom.
My sister & I were just discussing not only how screwed up this dynamic is, but how different it is for each of us.... since we have different "roles" in the family, mom interacts with us differently too. So different that as I'm sharing stories with sis she's staring back, a bit incredulous, asking "did we live in the same house?"