I am very passive aggressive and it has not served me well. As a coping mechanism, I sublimated my emotions as a child (as much as possible). I felt that it was better to clam up and be stoic in a chaotic environment then to add fuel to the fire. So, these coping skills are still in force and half the time I don't even know what I am feeling. Then, at inappropriate times, my anger spills out and I create a mess. I want to work on this in therapy along with a lot of other things.