it may be tough but you are learning NEW ways to deal with disappointment and anger and in general life on life's terms.
wine won't change a thing, except your state of NON-sobriety.
it won't make dealing with your alcoholic husband any better.
it won't make your inlaws nicer more pleasant people.
won't change the weather or traffic or the amount due on the mortgage.
don't let the disease progress. stay in today.