NONE of us is "in control of it all"--sometimes it feels like we are, but we can control one tiny corner of the universe, and that's our actions and reactions. You are taking appropriate actions to take care of yourself. You can't control him, or the legal process. Sounds like you have good legal advisors who will provide you with the best advice that they can. (P.s., THEY don't have the power to control the legal process, either!)