Lol Lexie I know you weren't shouting
So met with barrister, I'm not in control yet!! My cross petition will be submitted not agreeing to his grounds for divorce based on the fact that apparently we haven't lived together since 2000 but on the grounds of unreasonable behaviour. He will receive my petition and given time to respond to meet and sort out the finances then once that's sorted we proceed to court for the divorce. If he doesn't respond then we request something from the court based on my petition, or something. My heads spinning!!
So although I'm not in control of it all I am letting him know that I'm not going to sit about and wait for him to decide to proceed!